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Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Is it selfish to want to place my baby for adoption?
A: No. It is very hard to put your baby's needs first. Through adoption, you offer the baby not only a life, but the chance for a good future. You also have to decide what is best for you. Your personal goals, such as school or career pursuits, are important ways of taking care of yourself. There is a difference.
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A: Yes.
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Q: If I choose adoption, who will pay my medical bills?
A: St. Mary's will assist you with all reasonable pregnancy related expenses/medical care should you need help.
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Q: What about the birth father?
A: By law, biological fathers have the same rights as the birth mother. When possible, it is very important the birth father be involved in making an adoption plan for the child. St. Mary's encourages both parties to receive the counseling needed to make the right decision for your child.
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Q: Will I feel sad when I sign the adoption papers?
A: Yes, sadness is a normal and natural part of making an adoption plan. Birth mothers and birth fathers who place their babies for adoption do so lovingly. Their tears do not mean their decision was wrong. Grieving the loss of parenting your child is a difficult, yet healthy process birth parents experience.
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A: Birth parents won't forget their child, but they can live peacefully with their decision. St. Mary's counselors provide on-going support and counseling for birth parents following an adoption plan to assist them in moving forward with their lives.
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Q: What if I should change my mind and disappoint a family?
A: Your task is to make the very best decision for you and your baby. This is a personal, lifelong decision you are making and you will not feel pressured. St. Mary's families understand what a difficult decision you are making and will respect your choice regardless.