FAQs for Pregnant Women

• What Is Adoption?

Adoption is a means of meeting the developmental needs of a child by legally transferring ongoing parental responsibilities for that child from birth parents to adoptive parents, recognizing that in the process a new kinship network is created that forever links those two families together through the child who is shared by both.

– Adoption and the Family System

• Is It Selfish To Want To Place My Baby For Adoption?

No. Through adoption, you offer the baby not only life, but the chance for a good future. You also have to decide what is best for you. Your personal goals, such as school or career pursuits, are important ways of taking care of yourself. There is a difference.

• Is Placing My Baby For Adoption Permanent?

Yes, once you have made the decision to place your baby for adoption and you have signed the Permanent and Irrevocable Surrender forms giving legal custody to St. Mary’s Services, it is a final decision that cannot be changed. It is extremely important that you consider all of your options before making the decision to place your child for adoption. If you are uncertain about your decision, you should consider signing a Temporary Placement Agreement and place your baby into a safe Interim Care Home to give yourself more time to consider your options. Your counselor can discuss this in greater detail with you.

• Do I Need My Parent’s Permission To Place My Baby For Adoption?

No. However, if you are under the age of 18, we strongly encourage you to talk with your parents about your decision. Facing unplanned pregnancy is difficult and we want you to have all the support you need during this time.

• If I Choose To Place My Baby For Adoption, Who Will Pay My Bills?

St. Mary’s will assist you with reasonable pregnancy-related expenses, including medical care, should you need help.

• Does The Birth Father Have A Say In Placing My Baby For Adoption?

By law, biological fathers have the same rights as birth mothers. When possible, it is important that the birth father be involved in making an adoption plan for the child. St. Mary’s encourages both parties to receive the adoption counseling needed to make the right decision for your child.

• Can I Have Contact With My Child After Placing Him/Her For Adoption?

Yes. At St. Mary’s you can choose to have an “open” adoption, meaning that you and the adoptive family have ongoing contact after the baby is born. The openness is up to you and with what you are most comfortable. St. Mary’s believes that “adoption is a relationship,” and we are advocates not only of ongoing contact, but also the perspective that a birth mother never relinquishes her position or connection to her child. Some of our adoptive families permanently welcome their child’s birth mother into their own extended families.

If you are pregnant and would like to speak to someone immediately, please call (847) 870-8181 or text HOPE1 to 67076

Si usted está embarazada y quieres hablar con alguien inmediatamente, por favor llame al (847) 870-8181 or envie un texto a HOPE1 al 67076

“Counselors at St. Mary’s also listened to my parents’ concerns and helped them understand what I was going through. That helped my family come together during a tough time.”

– Meg, St. Mary’s Birth Mother

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